My boyfriend was telling me what his friend had told him about a girl that the friend used to live with. Apparently she would sit post-shower in the kitchen and put her feet up on the table, so at certain angles you got a full view of her genital area.
My bf told me that his friend had said it was “untidy, like the Gaza strip”. When I furrowed my brow a little, trying to connect the image of the Gaza Strip with genitalia, he said “you know, it was torn apart?”
I then said that that sounded more like she’d had FGM or something. What did he exactly mean? What does tidy even refer to? Cause I was thinking just her pubic hair or something and failing to see how that is like the Gaza Strip, unless her landing strip wasn’t well shaped anymore?
So he tried to compare it to an “unpacked donner kebab” To which I said “that’s not particularly helpful either” and I asked “do guys really compare women’s vaginas to donner kebabs and the Gaza Strip?” and he said well, no, but it’s just a joke and it’s a common one (so I guess what he should have said is, “yes”!)
I said, well 100 years ago the “n word” was still a common term but that didn’t make it appropriate. Obviously, “one is not like the other” because one is a joke.
I told him that actually I found it offensive to think that someone would be comparing vaginas to the grossest meat on earth and that it’s no fucking wonder that vagino and labioplasties are on the rise.
He got exasperated and said that I have to turn everything into a platform and it is just a common joke*. He tried googling kebabs to show me, but got caught up on the fact that “unpacked kebab” was in the Urban Dictionary, as though that made it better.
He probably told his friend about our exchange.
"Yeah, but she’s always been like that though," is what my bf said his friend would tell him.
*I fail to see the humour in the joke - he couldn’t even explain it to me. Therefore it is not a joke but merely the derogatory comparison I took it to be.